Getting Rid of the Weight of Our Own Making

” A river doesn’t hold all the water that passes through it”

Dear Reader:

Don’t we love to hold on to sentimental things? In many cases for too long. For years I have begged my adult ” children” to come get anything they want to keep but basically they seem content for me to keep it.

Rutledge is the only one who helps me out because he wants all his dad’s football trophies, jerseys, equipment… and I am more than happy to send it home with him!!!

Thank you Rutledge! ❤️

Mark Nepo uses a beautiful metaphor to compare our tendency to hang onto items from the past too long by comparing it to a river. A river doesn’t ” own” the water that rushes by…yet it still retains a close relationship to it, as the force of what moves through shapes it. It is the same with everything we love. In truth there is no point holding on to past mementos … for the loving moments have already shaped us into who we are.

How many times have we tried to clean out trunks and closets-only to get detoured looking at old report cards, letters from camp, awards, etc. and moving the sentimental items from one box to another? Mission Impossible!

Sentiment releases powerful feelings that hibernate in us. They take the forms of cards, dried flowers or books. We end up carrying the past too long and the past can weigh us down.

Memories of the love between my children and now grandchildren will always live within me-hanging on to too much ” sentimental stuff” just drags us down-because love is on-going and must be enjoyed in the moment. Do we really need to hang on to a memento to keep that on-going love afloat or free ourselves for the next expression of love!

So until tomorrow … we should realize that the ” most useful gift we can give ourselves is to lay our lives open like a river.”

” Today is my favorite day” Winnie the Pooh

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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