Creating Our Own Design for Life


Dear Reader:

It dawned on me one day that what I am doing right now is creating and designing the life I always wanted.

I have lived a lot of my life, like the carriage horses with the blinders on….staring straight ahead…just trying to pull myself and my family through another day…oblivious to the outside world going on around me. (Just living in a type of self-imposed survival fish bowl)

But now, for the first time, I realize that the only one who can hold me back, with designing the life I want to live, is me. No more excuses!

And now that the blinders are finally off and peripheral vision surrounds me…my “new eyes” are seeing life so differently. Nowadays I can “see” God’s Hand in every thing going on in my life.

Even this recent unexpected home “renovation” was all part of His plan. I was given enough  time to acquire the funding I would need to pull this off…

The 2:00 a.m. worries over the aging home have suddenly disappeared and I am sleeping like a baby (actually better than a baby)…because God forced my hand to take action…it was the right time to get my house on a  firmer foundation, along with my life.

So many times we think the timing in our lives is completely wrong, that it is off-kilter…but that is because we are looking at time through our restricted “chronos” lenses…whereas God’s universe is timeless and everlasting.

It isn’t until later, with the wisdom of hindsight, that we understand why some situations or events happened when they did. It is then that we realize it was actually perfect timing.

Madeleine L’ Engle ( 40 Day Journey) understood this when she observed:

” The gods we erect (money, power, prestige) are easier to worship than the Creator of the universe. They’re more comprehensible. The God I believe in is not comprehensible in finite, mortal terms. 

God is infinite, immortal, all-knowing. I have a point of view, you have a point of view. But God has VIEW. Our problem is that we don’t like having to depend on that which we cannot control, manipulate, dominate.” 

Cancer was and is an on-going lesson in learning how to pray for healing in both attitude and perspective so that the day arrives when we can fully “let go and let God.”

Every day feels like a new slate now. I find myself taking more and more bags to Goodwill. I crave the simple life…an uncluttered life dedicated to spending more time with family and friends, less time on senseless spending for “stuff”, and special time with God.

If, at the end of our life here on earth…we can say…“We Designed the Life We Loved” (the life meant for us to live by God) then I think the angels in heaven will raise up their voices in joy and jubilation!

So until tomorrow…Let’s get busy getting rid of anything that stands between us and the life that was originally designed for us to live.

“Today is my favorite day”  Winnie the Pooh

*Even my moon flowers are, not only adapting, to the back yard fence but loving it…the blooms are much bigger than they were on the front porch…

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img_6555*Brooke and I are heading up to Columbia later today to meet up with Jackson and Libby at Jackson’s house…Ben plays in a Reunion Band from high school/college and they are performing this evening…I am sure it will bring back lots of memories.




About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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4 Responses to Creating Our Own Design for Life

  1. Gin-g Edwards says:

    Love this entry…so true

  2. Becky Dingle says:

    It is true…it is up to us to create the world around us we want to live in.

  3. Johnny Johnson says:

    You have to get rid of life’s clutter to see your true life, the one God meant for you. When you finally do you begin to feel a little like you did as a child, care free, no real worries and what seemed like worries then we know now weren’t even close to a problem. You begin to feel l like no worries and Mommy and Daddy standing by only it’s our Heavenly Father that’s standing by looking over us.

  4. Becky Dingle says:

    Johnny….you created such a beautiful image in my mind….thank you for that wonderful analogy!

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